Find your purpose and passion in life with our 10 question guide. Addressing the ADHD dilemma of having too many passions as well as numb and depressed individuals lack of interests. 

When I read my partner this draft he wasn’t having it. He got triggered and was really upset with me. He said “The purpose of life is to give meaning to life. He knows his purpose, the “why” and his driving force in his work. He’s even worked with that for many years, helping leaders and companies understand their why, their purpose and direction. 

He continued to tell me that the reason people are unhappy is because they lack meaning, they walk around like zombies or float around without a compass and a north star. How could I come and say that you can be happy without knowing your purpose! That went against everything he had learnt, taught and believed in over the last couple of decades.

How to find your purpose and passion is a hot topic, there are over a hundred thousand book titles that talk about how you can find your passion and, or, your life purpose. We have been sold this idé that we should have a main passion, something that we are good at and that our purpose in life, our calling, and that our mission on earth is turning that passion in to work or a full time hobby.

But, what about if you have ADHD or are a renaissance man or woman like I am, with many passions, many things that you love doing and are good at doing? How do you identify and pick only one passion to be your life purpose? 

I’ve been constantly pressured since my teens, by a myriad of people and society in general, to just pick one out of all my passions and only focus on that. But it’s impossible for me. 

I’m really passionate about photography, well most creative forms of expression really, like painting, sculpting, welding, make up and body painting, making jewellery etc, untouched nature, the sea, massage and alternative therapies, tantra, sexual energy, healthy food and natural remedies, dance, yoga, diving and snorkling, hiking, animals, travelling and connecting with different cultures, cooking, children, meditation, self knowledge and spirituality, metaphysics, feminism, human rights, music, innovation, architecture and interior design, theatre, music and dance performances, art exhibitions, living off the grid, extreme survival, flying…just to mention a few hahah. 

I have also worked with many of these passions.

Zooming out, I asked myself what they have in common and why I love these things. I found two main categories; One where the focus is on seeing people and children, making them feel like they matter, assisting them with their self-esteem, self-love, emotional healing and self-discovery, giving them hope and inspiration. That gives me a feeling of service, purpose and connection. 

Working as a life-coach, photographer, as a therapist and previously also as a spa manager, make up artist, hair stylist, art teacher and english teacher, that’s what I was doing. 

The other category is where I lose myself in the now, get in the flow, don’t think and refuel my batteries. Being creative, in untouched  nature, emerged in the sea, making love, dancing, practizing yoga, watching natural as well as man made beauty, connecting with animals and hanging out with children energizes me and puts a smile on my face. 

Having identified two categories that energize and resonate with me, makes it easier to understand my passion and purpose, instead of just seeing hundreds of seemingly separate and random things. Try doing the same.

1. De-programming, the process of unlearning and de-identifying things that other people have told you about yourself and the world. The big cleanup of old assumptions, negative beliefs, false identifications as well as understanding your triggers, behaviour patterns, addictions and external identifications.

2. Land or ground yourself in the present moment as often as you can remember by becoming aware of your breath, your senses, or your bodily sensations.

3. Observing your thoughts and learning not to take them so seriously.

4. Daring to bravely feel what is, becoming friends with the now, even when it is painful.

5. Identify your values and live as authentically as possible.

6. Giving thanks to the things that you are grateful for.

7. Getting to know your essence, focusing on the conscious presence, the subject that is experiencing and observing everything, instead of getting caught up in and identifying with all the external objects.

8. Heal your emotional traumas holistically, from the root up.

The vagus nerve is the longest cranial nerve in the body, connecting the brain to many vital organs, including the heart, lungs, and digestive tract. It plays a role in regulating numerous essential functions, such as heart rate, breathing, and digestion. The vagus nerve not only serves as a bridge between the brain, heart and the gut, it’s also a key component of the parasympathetic nervous system – the system responsible for the “rest and digest” response, countering the “fight or flight” mechanisms of the sympathetic nervous system. It plays a big role in our emotional responses, stress levels, and overall mental well-being.

Resetting the vagus nerve aims to bring the body back to a state of balance. When our fight or flight response is consistently activated due to stress, trauma, or other factors, it can put a strain on our nervous system. A reset helps in recalibrating this system, making it easier to listen to our intuition and our hearts true desires. 

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