Empath Wellness: 10 Commandments for Spiritual Awakening

Empath Wellness: 10 Commandments for Spiritual Awakening

Empath Wellness: 10 Commandments for Spiritual Awakening

Discover how empaths can navigate spiritual growth, embrace self-care, and find balance amidst life’s challenges. What is great advice for many can prove to be destructive for empaths. 

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Traditional spiritual teachings can often be harmful and lead to self-destruction for empaths, codependent individuals, and highly sensitive people if not balanced. Learn to prioritize your well-being, listen to your intuition, set boundaries, surround yourself with loving support, and heal past traumas. Embrace your authentic self and show your light and power, speaking up and sharing your story. This video provides a refreshing and empowering perspective on personal growth and fulfilment, important life hacks, spiritual advice and self-development rules for empaths, introverts, highly sensitive persons ( HSP) and co-dependants to be free and strong, confident, peaceful and happy. Normal, so-called spiritual advice from the world's main religions and new-age is often bad for us, even lethal.  These “commandments” or guidelines are much better to live by for empaths, codependent and highly sensitive persons (HSP).

In the realm of spiritual traditions and modern teachings, paths laid out for liberation and grace often seem ill-suited for empaths, codependents, and highly sensitive individuals. What’s prescribed as a journey toward selflessness and generosity can, paradoxically, become a restrictive experience for those naturally inclined to prioritize the well-being of others over their own.

The Spiritual Conundrum for Empaths

The Disconnect Between Spiritual Teachings and Empath Needs

While the advice to be more selfless and generous is beneficial for many, empaths often find themselves overwhelmed by such directives, exacerbating their struggles with maintaining personal boundaries and self-care.

Religious and New Age Challenges

Religious edicts to turn the other cheek and New Age imperatives to manifest one’s reality can be particularly perilous for empaths in harmful situations, potentially leading to further victimization and emotional distress.

Bad Advice for Toxic Relationships

For those entangled in abusive dynamics, adhering to spiritual guidance advocating passivity and forgiveness without critical discernment can be damaging, even life-threatening.

The Peril of New Age Philosophies for Empaths

New Age ideologies that emphasize personal responsibility for one’s circumstances can unintentionally victim-blame and undermine the experiences of those facing manipulation or abuse by narcissistic individuals. If you live in a violent relationship… listening to this could kill you. It could also prevent you from reporting a rape and asking for help.

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Common advice that is dangerous for Empaths

Spiritual Advice That Can Kill

Religion preach:

    • To turn the other cheek
    • Not to stand up for myself
    • That silence is a virtue
    • To love and be kind to people who are mean to me and hurt me
    • To always be humble, generous, and take care of others’ needs before my own.

    New age teachings tell us:

      • “I am responsible for my own life”
      • “I create my own reality”
      • “I have attracted this person/this situation”
      • “It’s up to me to change my thoughts and feelings, so I can change my life for the better”
      • “If I just focus on the positive things and remain optimistic, he/she will be nice, calm down, and treat me with respect.”
      • “If I talk about negative things, I will just attract more negative people/situations”
      • “I probably have some karma left from a previous life that I need to work on”
      • “The people who treat me the worst are my best
      • teachers”
      • “I just need to let go and accept what is”
      • “Other people’s behavior towards me is just a mirror of something within me”

      Common Social Advice:

        • “Don’t stand out”
        • “Don’t think you are special”
        • “Stay out of this”
        • “Speaking is silver, but silence is golden”
        • “Love always starts with a fight”
        • “Don’t make a scene”
        • “Don’t challenge fate”
        • “You get what you deserve”
        • “You reap what you sow”

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      10 Commandments for Empaths & People Pleasers

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      Prioritize self-care to effectively assist others. Take care of yourself first before trying to save others. Give to others from what overflows from your own cup.

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      Heed your intuition and heart above external pressures.

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      Cease performing roles that no longer serve you.

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      four

      Learn about your core values, and honor them, and live authentically, be true to yourself.

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      Cultivate environments filled with kindness and support and minimize contact with manipulative, draining, toxic people.

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      six

      Learn how to set healthy personal boundaries and have nothing to do with people who disregard or disrespect them.

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      Treat yourself as you would the person you love most. Shower yourself with all your empathy, care, patience, love, and generosity.

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      Eight

      Address and heal from past traumas, work on your inner child and shadow side.

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      Nine

      Bring forth your inner warrior, animal, goddess, or god—the side of yourself you’ve suppressed to play small and safe.

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      ten

      Stop justifying your existence; you matter, you are valuable! Just as you are. Speak up, stand up for yourself, let your voice be heard, share your story with people who are ready to truly listen, with their hearts.

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      Embrace Empathy as a Source of Power

      Empathy, when properly nurtured and balanced with self-awareness and self-care, emerges not as a vulnerability but as a profound source of strength. For empaths embarking on the path of spiritual awakening, embracing these principles can illuminate a journey marked by profound transformation and authentic empowerment.

      We invite you to share your journey, struggles, and victories in embracing your empathic nature. Together, let’s forge a path of wellness that honors our sensitivity as a gift and a gateway to deeper understanding and connection.

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      Emotional Trauma Healing: 1st Step for Holistic Well-being

      Emotional Trauma Healing: 1st Step for Holistic Well-being

      Emotional Trauma Healing: 1st Step for Holistic Well-being

      The Horrible Suffering Created By Societal Conditioning.

      You were born pure beingness, innocence, light and love. But then, people around you – your parents, family members, friends, neighbors, the school, news, films and advertising– they all told you what you are like; that you were good or bad, naughty, pretty, kind, or difficult, smart or stupid. You were taught about the world; that it is unsafe and unjust, or full of opportunities.

      You started to identify with external things like your nationality, your gender, your familys socio economic status, race, your abilities, and your disabilities, religion and looks.

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      Holistic Emotional Trauma Healing, Is The nr. 1 Way to Be Happy, Peaceful and Free.

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      Dancing feet, releasing trauma, celebrating freedom from emotional wounds, societal conditioning and destructive coping mechanisms.

      And with time, slowly, your inner light got dimmer, and you started to forget who you really were deep down because you kept hearing about what you like; from work, from friends and family, from media, television, advertising, and you believed all these things you heard.

      Trauma’s Role in Shaping Us.

      Not being seen, not having your needs met as a child, trying your authenticity for safety, care and acceptance from your primarily caregivers or worse, abuse and neglect, distorts your view of reality and harden and thicken these layers and you forget about your true nature. 

      You develop coping mechanisms to not feel the pain, strategies to be seen and loved, protective mechanisms to stay safe.

      The layers are getting thicker and thicker, you are less present, you you either deem of the better future or fear what might happen, you wish for the good old times or are stuck with traumatic flashbacks. You desperately try to attract certain things people and situations and try to push away other things people and situations. You can hardly remember what it was like being authentic, free, curious, present and open.

      Do You Recognize These Signs?

      99% of the time, they stem from unhealed trauma.

      Every journey begins with understanding where you stand. Reflect on these common symptoms of unhealed emotional trauma, and see if they resonate with your experience:

      Physical

       

      • Sleep Issues: Insomnia or restless sleep.
      • Chronic Pain: Frequent headaches, back pain, or muscular tension.
      • Fatigue: Persistent tiredness or lack of energy.
      • Cardiovascular Symptoms: Rapid heartbeat, chest pains, or high blood pressure.
      • Digestive Problems: Upset stomach, heartburn, constipation, or diarrhoea.

      Emotional

       

      • Anxiety and Nervousness: Persistent feelings of unease.
      • Difficulty Relaxing: Struggling to unwind or enjoy leisure activities.
      • Feeling Overwhelmed: A sense of being constantly burdened.
      • Low Self-Esteem: Feelings of worthlessness or inadequacy.
      • Mood Swings: Sudden emotional changes or heightened sensitivity.

      Behavioural

       

      • Procrastination: Delaying decisions or actions.
      • Avoidance: Shying away from responsibilities.
      • Restlessness: Difficulty sitting still, concentrating, or staying focused.
      • Emotional Outbursts: Snapping at people or having a short temper.
      • Altered Eating Patterns: Eating too much or too little.

      Empath

       

      • Overwhelm in Crowds: Feeling drained in busy environments.
      • Heightened Sensitivity: Intense reactions to emotional or sensory stimuli.
      • Difficulty Setting Boundaries: Struggling to say no or maintain personal space.
      • Absorbing Others’ Emotions: Feeling others’ emotions as if they were your own.
      • Compassion Fatigue: Feeling emotionally depleted from caring for others.

      Relationship

       

      • Loneliness: Feeling isolated, even in the company of others.
      • Difficulty Being Respected: Feeling undervalued or constantly undermined.
      • Fear of Abandonment: Anxious about being left alone or rejected.
      • Staying Busy to Avoid Pain: Constantly working or engaging in activities to not face emotional distress.
      • Anxious Attachment Style: Insecurity in relationships, needing constant reassurance.

      Coping 

       

      • Excessive Alcohol Use: Relying on substances like wine to cope.
      • Overworking: Immersing in work to avoid facing personal issues.
      • Numbing and Detachment: Feeling emotionally disconnected or indifferent.
      • Avoidance of Solitude: Discomfort with being alone or in quiet settings.
      • Engaging in Risky Behaviors: Seeking thrill or danger as a distraction.

      Depression, anxiety, panic attacks, obesity, suicide attempts, OCD, addiction and hypochondria, are all to common now days. Almost always they share the same root cause; unhealed emotional trauma. Ignoring these signs can lead to a deepening cycle of pain and dysfunction. It’s not just about the bad days. It’s about the cumulative effect on your life, relationships, and sense of self. 

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      The Process of Forgetting Who You Are.

      Then what happens is that, just like really good, passionate actors, actresses, sometimes get so submerged in the role that they are playing, that they temporarily forget who they are. 

      Or when you dream at night, your whole reality is that dream, you are not aware of the person that lies there sleeping dreaming the dream. You get caught up in the dream, just like in the film the Matrix. 

      This is what almost all adults look like today, probably you as well. The layers of conditioning, programming, and emotional trauma have become so thick that you dont see your light. You look at the hard surface and think this is you and have completely forgotten about your divine essence. Its like an iceberg thinking its only the small part over the surface or a drop of water or a wave feeling isolated, limited and separate, not ealizing that they are part of the whole ocean.

      3 Ways to Wake up?

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      You had enough of long term suffering.

      When you are anxious, dissatisfied, and unfulfilled enough to start looking for meaning, answers and connection.

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      You are privileged but still miss something.

      When you got what you wanted and did what you thought you should do to be happy but still feel empty, depressed and disconnected. Like something is missing or wrong, but you can’t put your finger on what it is.

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      You hit rock bottom.

      Or when you experience severe trauma, hit rock bottom and meet the dark night of the soul, you have an existential crisis.

      A catalyst for awakening

      Trauma, A Horrible, Beautiful, Blessing in Disguise. 

      Because what happens when we experience something really traumatic? It hurts like crazy, but where does it hurt?

      It hurts all those hard layers that we have identified with, our ego, our false idea of self. But if it gets traumatic enough, it creates these tears in the surface, excruciatingly painful, of course, but if the cracks go deep, you can start to see your inner light shining through the cracks. And you start to realize, hey wait a minute, I’m not all these old programmings and all these filters and this idea of who I am. I’m something much more, and you start to discover your light again. Id like to say that trauma is like a blessing in disguise. Painful, horrible, but it also starts to shed off all these layers of false identifications, of assumptions, programming, and you rediscover your light. And under the surface, it’s always been there; peace, love and freedom. It hasn’t gone anywhere.

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      Acute Suffering Creates a Necessary Urgency for Emotional Trauma Healing.

      For a lot of people, that’s the start of their spiritual and healing journey. Its like you need to feel bad enough to really be motivated to wanting to heal, be free and happy. If you were held under water, all you can think about is getting to the surface so that you can breath again. Thats your only focus, a matter of life or death. For many individuals, its not until they have a similar ”live or die” feeling that they are ready to commit to their awakening, healing and transformation.

      Self-Realization or Just a Beautiful Glimpse?

      Some individuals get a strong glimpse, a wow experience of oneness and pure unconditional love. And thats often exactly what it is, just a quick glimpse or a period. If you then work on healing your emotional traumas, effectively, safely and holistically, with the right tools, exercises, guidance and support over time, that light, your authentic self will become your reality and guiding star.

      A word of warning

      The Dangers of Spiritual Awakening Without Emotional Trauma Healing

      After an initial awakening, if you dont follow a holistic emotional trauma healing path, you can fall in to many traps. Its treacherous territory, murky waters with dangers lurking around every bend. Its easy to develop a spiritual ego, go back a sleep, to the old habits, or even get more destructive, depressed or anxious than before. Thats because you got a taste of the light and now your shadow side and suffering seems even more unbearable, because you now have something to compare with, and you have an even stronger resistance to the present than before, you just want to get back to the bliss and love. 

      Spiritual awakening and emotional trauma healing go hand in hand. One can be the catalyst for the other but both are needed to be truly happy, peaceful and free.

      I Guess You Are Not New to This Path.

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      The fact that you are here watching this video tells me you are probably a seeker – someone who yearns for deeper meaning, authentic connection and real healing. You’ve probably tried various paths: self-help books, therapy, wellness retreats, and online resources. You might veen have had a direct experience of your inner divine nature, of oneness and unconditional love. Yet, you find yourself still searching for something more substantial, something that truly resonates with your unique experiences and aspirations.

      You’re not alone in feeling that despite all your efforts, theres a missing piece. You seek more than just temporary fixes – you’re looking for a profound transformation that aligns with your core values and beliefs, leading you to a life of freedom, inner peace, and joy.

      What’s the Most Effective Emotional Trauma Healing Practice?

      Our holistic approach goes beyond the surface, addressing your need for deep, meaningful change. We offer a unique pathway through Awakening, Healing, and Transformation, each stage meticulously designed to guide you towards realizing your full potential.

      The Importance of Community Support in Trauma Healing.

      In The Ami Effect Community, we address this awakening, healing and transformation through a variety of tools, programs,  and retreats. Our offerings are designed to help you see beyond the surface, acknowledge your true challenges, and ignite a desire for genuine transformation.

      From somatic, artistic and mindfulness practices to in-depth  workshops on emotional trauma, inner child and shadow work, stress management, anxiety relief just to name a few,  to events that explore spiritual awakening and personal growth, we guide you to a clearer understanding of your needs and the path ahead.

      We provide a safe, supportive and inspirational environment for your journey. Our holistic approach ensures that every facet of your being is cared for and nurtured, facilitating a deep and lasting healing process.

      The 3-Steps of Trauma Recovery.

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      Awakening: Recognizing and Embracing the Need for Change.

      Awakening is often the first step in a profound journey of self-discovery and healing. It’s about realizing that there’s more to life than your current reality. Maybe you’ve been successful in your career, yet you feel an emptiness that material success hasn’t filled. Or perhaps, despite your spiritual inclinations, you find yourself grappling with stress, anxiety, or the scars of past relationships and childhood trauma. Awakening is recognizing these struggles and yearning for a deeper connection and understanding. Awakening is also waking up from the illusion of a separate limited self, becoming consciously aware of your essence. Awakening also entails removing the veil infront of your eyes and seeing the world, yourself and other in a new light, untinted by old programing and limiting beliefs. 

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      Healing: Deep, Holistic Recovery.

      Once awakened to the realities of your struggles, the journey of healing begins. Healing is not just a linear process of fixing what’s broken; it’s a holistic journey that encompasses your entire being. You might be seeking to heal from emotional traumas, looking to manage stress and anxiety better, or aiming to reconcile with your past.

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      Transformation: Realizing Your Full Potential.

      Transformation is where the magic of real change happens. It’s about taking the insights gained from your awakening and the strength rebuilt from your healing to create a life that truly reflects your authentic self. This is where you redefine your identity, discover your purpose, and start living with a newfound sense of freedom and joy.

      This phase is not just about personal fulfillment; it’s also about stepping into your role as a creator, inspiring others, and contributing positively to the collective. 

      The journey through Awakening, Healing, and Transformation is interconnected and cyclical. Each phase feeds into the next, creating a continuous loop of growth, healing and self-discovery.

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      Join us and embark on a path that leads from self-awareness to holistic well-being, and ultimately to a life of purpose, connection, and joy. We are here to guide, support, and celebrate with you every step of the way.

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      Feeling stressed about not knowing your life’s purpose, passion, or calling is a common concern. However, true happiness and meaning in life don’t hinge on these discoveries. This revelation may seem controversial, but let’s explore why understanding your essence and being can lead you to a life filled with joy and self-love without the need for a defined purpose or passion.

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      Find Your Purpose and Nr 1 Passion in Life

      Do you feel stressed over the fact that you don’t know what your purpose, passion and calling in life is?

      Do you think that you need to know what your purpose is, in order to be happy and feel that your life has meaning? 

      What if you don’t feel passionate about anything or that you have so many things you love that you can’t narrow it down to one main thing that is your calling and purpose?

      No need to stress, you don’t need to know your purpose and calling in order to feel joy and self love. 

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      No, That is Not True, He Said Frustrated.

      When I read my partner this draft he wasn’t having it. He got triggered and was really upset with me. He said “The purpose of life is to give meaning to life. He knows his purpose, the “why” and his driving force in his work. He’s even worked with that for many years, helping leaders and companies understand their why, their purpose and direction. 

      He continued to tell me that the reason people are unhappy is because they lack meaning, they walk around like zombies or float around without a compass and a north star. How could I come and say that you can be happy without knowing your purpose! That went against everything he had learnt, taught and believed in over the last couple of decades.

      How to Find Your Purpose and Nr. 1 Passion in Life.

      How to find your purpose and passion is a hot topic, there are over a hundred thousand book titles that talk about how you can find your passion and, or, your life purpose. We have been sold this idé that we should have a main passion, something that we are good at and that our purpose in life, our calling, and that our mission on earth is turning that passion in to work or a full time hobby.

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      In the self improvement, success striving, productivity oriented, consumer based society in which we live, yes it is very important to have a purpose. If we however look at it from a much deeper, spiritual or philosophical viewpoint, we don’t need to do anything, be anyone, be anywhere or achieve anything in order to be happy.

      Happiness and love is our foundation, our essence, our divine nature. The purpose of life is to live it, to just be and to know thyself. But that is not in contrast to being passionate about things, to have a purpose and create meaning. That is something that often happens automatically, once you start to awaken to your true nature. 

      Find out your Dharma, life purpose, mission and true passion

      10 Questions to Find Your Purpose and Passion in Life. 

      What Energizes You?

      Think about activities that leave you feeling more alive and energized. This can reveal hidden passions or interests.

      Moments of Flow

      Recall times when you lost track of time while engaged in an activity. What were you doing? This can be a clue to activities that resonate deeply with you.

      Childhood Joys

      What did you love doing as a child? Childhood activities often hold keys to our innate passions and interests.

      Your Ideal Day

      Imagine a day with no obligations. What would you choose to do? This can reveal what genuinely interests you when external pressures are removed.

      Contributions to the World

      Consider what positive changes or contributions you’d like to make in the world. This can align with deeper values and purpose.

      Overcoming Obstacles

      Reflect on challenges you’re willing to face to do what you love. This helps identify passions you’re truly committed to.

      Your Legacy

      Think about how you want to be remembered. What legacy do you want to leave behind? This can help align your actions with deeper purpose.

      Life Without Limits

      If there were no barriers, what would you pursue? Removing limitations can help uncover true desires and aspirations.

      Inner Fulfillment

      Identify activities that bring a sense of fulfilment and inner joy, regardless of external rewards.

      Life’s Teachings

      Reflect on what you wish you knew earlier in life. Sharing this wisdom can become a part of your purpose.

      When You Find Your Purpose, Follow It!

      Now look at your answers and ask yourself if you have been totally authentic in your answers, or if your answers have been tinted by societal norms, or expectations from loved ones.

      It’s also important to keep in mind that if you notice what you have a gift for, to not judge it, thinking that it’s not that important or that you would like another gift instead. Don’t think about if it will make you money and bring you fame, nor that you have to accomplice something great and significant in the world. Just follow what makes you happy and what energises you.

      Once you have identified your purpose, don’t ignore it or put it on hold. When we ignore our calling we suffer. Follow it, practice it, learn about it, get better at it, teach it.

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      What If You Have Many Passions and Interests?

      But, what about if you have ADHD or are a renaissance man or woman like I am, with many passions, many things that you love doing and are good at doing? How do you identify and pick only one passion to be your life purpose? 

      I’ve been constantly pressured since my teens, by a myriad of people and society in general, to just pick one out of all my passions and only focus on that. But it’s impossible for me. 

      I’m really passionate about photography, well most creative forms of expression really, like painting, sculpting, welding, make up and body painting, making jewellery etc, untouched nature, the sea, massage and alternative therapies, tantra, sexual energy, healthy food and natural remedies, dance, yoga, diving and snorkling, hiking, animals, travelling and connecting with different cultures, cooking, children, meditation, self knowledge and spirituality, metaphysics, feminism, human rights, music, innovation, architecture and interior design, theatre, music and dance performances, art exhibitions, living off the grid, extreme survival, flying…just to mention a few hahah. 

      I have also worked with many of these passions.

      This Helped me Narrow it down

      Find The Common Threads In Your Passions

      Zooming out, I asked myself what they have in common and why I love these things. I found two main categories; One where the focus is on seeing people and children, making them feel like they matter, assisting them with their self-esteem, self-love, emotional healing and self-discovery, giving them hope and inspiration. That gives me a feeling of service, purpose and connection. 

      Working as a life-coach, photographer, as a therapist and previously also as a spa manager, make up artist, hair stylist, art teacher and english teacher, that’s what I was doing. 

      The other category is where I lose myself in the now, get in the flow, don’t think and refuel my batteries. Being creative, in untouched  nature, emerged in the sea, making love, dancing, practizing yoga, watching natural as well as man made beauty, connecting with animals and hanging out with children energizes me and puts a smile on my face. 

      Having identified two categories that energize and resonate with me, makes it easier to understand my passion and purpose, instead of just seeing hundreds of seemingly separate and random things. Try doing the same.

      Dissassociation and Depression 

      What if You Don’t Feel Passionate About Anything?

      But, if you have ever been depressed, suffered from fatigue, anxiety or panic attacks, being in touch with or identifying your passion is not really an option when you feel empty, scared and drained. Thinking about finding your passion or life purpose when you feel like that, only tends to make it worse, increasing your inner stress. 

      Especially if you feel that you need to know your passion and purpose, in order to feel better, then it becomes a catch 22. The reason you feel lost, unfulfilled and unhappy has little to do with you finding your passion and purpose, according to me. That will all come naturally once you have addressed some other things first.

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      You Feel Bad or Numb Because You Are:

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      Living with emotional trauma

      You have not looked at and healed your traumas, understood your triggers and reactive patterns or faced your shadow side.

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      Trying to escape pain

      You try to escape from feeling pain and do everything to avoid the “negative” feelings. Distract, numb, attack, flee, engage in addictive behaviours or unhealthy coping mechanisms to not face your emotional pain.

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      Fighting the Now

      You dwell on the past or long for the future. You have resistance to the present moment, have ideas about the now and are constantly commenting, comparing, judging, explaining, justifying, blaming, naming, categorising, trying to figure out what it means, drawing parallels, making it personal about yourself. You constantly try to repel something or attract someone, instead of being open and experiencing that which is, in a factual, neutral way.

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      Lacking Self-Knowledge

      You don’t really know yourself, you have forgotten about or overlooked your core, your essence, your divine nature, because you identify with external factors and social conditioning, feeling separate and limited. Your actions, views and choices come from ego and are based on fears, strategies, desires and addictions.

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      Letting negative thoughts rule

      You take your thoughts too seriously, believe in them, identify with them and let them dictate your mood, interactions and actions.

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      Experiencing the world through filters

      You experience the world, life, others, and yourself through a thick layer of filters. These filters consist of your masks and roles to fit in and be loved and accepted, be safe or not to disappoint people, your strategies to get what you want and need, your armour and shields to avoid getting hurt, and your programming and emotional traumas.

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      8 Keys to Happiness and Self-Love

      A lot of people also confuse passion with egoic desires and addictions. Sure, those might give you a dopamine high, an adrenalin kick and an ego boost, but it’s not going to help you feel fulfilled in the long run. Most of us look for our purpose and passion because we don’t feel good, and we think it will make us happy and make life meaningful.

      But when we don’t feel the passion, cannot narrow it down, or don’t seem to find our purpose, we tend to feel worse, and our inner stress can escalate.Then I can recommend having a look at these 8 main keys to self-love and happiness, which has helped me tremendously.

      By following these 8 guides, you will lower the volume of your monkey mind so you can hear your heart. You will be able to see if your passion is driven by your ego or if it comes from your presence or your heart. You will automatically follow what energises you, and that will become your purpose and guiding star, even if the road is rocky and it takes some time to crystallise.

      1. De-programming, the process of unlearning and de-identifying things that other people have told you about yourself and the world. The big cleanup of old assumptions, negative beliefs, false identifications as well as understanding your triggers, behaviour patterns, addictions and external identifications.

      2. Land or ground yourself in the present moment as often as you can remember by becoming aware of your breath, your senses, or your bodily sensations.

      3. Observing your thoughts and learning not to take them so seriously.

      4. Daring to bravely feel what is, becoming friends with the now, even when it is painful.

      5. Identify your values and live as authentically as possible.

      6. Giving thanks to the things that you are grateful for.

      7. Getting to know your essence, focusing on the conscious presence, the subject that is experiencing and observing everything, instead of getting caught up in and identifying with all the external objects.

      8. Heal your emotional traumas holistically, from the root up.

        Working With The Soul Nerve

        Vagus Nerve Reset – Vagal Toning

        Your vagus nerve, often called the “wandering nerve,” or “the soul nerve” is a Gateway to Holistic Well-being. Its reach and impact on the body’s various systems make it a critical component in understanding holistic health. Like the fascia, the vagus nerve plays a vital role in interconnecting various body parts and functions.

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        Ami Elsius Practicing Yoga in Kerala India. Yoga is great for vagal toning, vagus nerve reset. Practice to find you purpose and passion in life.

        The vagus nerve is the longest cranial nerve in the body, connecting the brain to many vital organs, including the heart, lungs, and digestive tract. It plays a role in regulating numerous essential functions, such as heart rate, breathing, and digestion. The vagus nerve not only serves as a bridge between the brain, heart and the gut, its also a key component of the parasympathetic nervous system – the system responsible for the “rest and digest” response, countering the “fight or flight” mechanisms of the sympathetic nervous system. It plays a big role in our emotional responses, stress levels, and overall mental well-being.

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        11 Methods to Enhance Vagal Tone 

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        Deep Breathing

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        Vagal Massage

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        Meditation

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        Cold Exposure

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        Gut Health

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        Yoga

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        Singing & Humming

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        Chewing and gargling

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        Tapping

        Resetting the vagus nerve aims to bring the body back to a state of balance. When our fight or flight response is consistently activated due to stress, trauma, or other factors, it can put a strain on our nervous system. A reset helps in recalibrating this system, making it easier to listen to our intuition and our hearts true desires. 

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